How to Revive From State Where Feelings Turned Negative?

Do you only feel negative during this lockdown?

With pain and helplessness all around,

With your self-identity forced to switch roles,

With a jolted normal for unpredictably long,

The thought pop ups cannot be exciting.

Infact most of them are negative…

Relax… that’s human! And it’s not only your story.

This is the first time we fall on the same page. 

But maybe… this lockdown… most of us went all too far.

Let’s Address the Problem

Fear… Dilemmas… Uncertainties… Anxiety… You are thinking too much about the future. 

Overflowing thoughts drive you everywhere you don’t want to reach.

Now that lays the foundation of a quandary.

Because when this unconsciously flow of thoughts continue,
it leads to a mental diarrhea, which soon attacks your positive emotions. 

Ahh… now that hurts!

With thoughts already conflicting, this lockdown came up with another challenge…
Managing emotions… a bigger task than managing mind.

This creates differences between your thoughts and emotions… and your crude feelings turn negative!

Once your feelings turn negative, no matter how hard you try, you cannot feel happy. 

And that’s what is happening to most of us during this quarantine, sitting at homes… having nothing to do. 

Bodies are locked down, but minds still wandering.

Painful state this… densely negative! 
The good news:
We can get out of here.

Let’s talk about the revival now!

How to Revive From State Where Feelings Turned Negative?

Arrange a session You with Yourself where you are disconnected from the outside world. 

No people, no cell phones, no distraction whatsoever…
Start with a minimum of 30 min session whenever you get Time.

Time… not a difficult thing to find during this lockdown… isn’t it?

So what do you do in that session?

Do nothing different! Quitely get back to basics…
Remind yourself that everything started with your mind… overflowing with negative thoughts… for an extended period.

And that’s what touched the depth of feelings.

So to revive your positive feelings, you need to get back to your thoughts.

Go for it! Just sit comfortably, preferably with closed eyes, and observe your thoughts coming and leaving. Don’t pay attention to any. Allow them to pass by.

Stop participating…. stop involving with any thought… even the ones you call positive.

You might be wondering:
No attention to negative thoughts… sounds logical!
But why should I stop paying attention to positive thoughts?

Because that’s a ploy.

That’s deliberate from the mind to convince you to interact with thoughts.
So that you hook to it… and finally get carried away by the flow of it.

It’s a mind’s trap to lure you to a diversion. So that you get caught overthinking, and it (mind) remains your dictator!

Thats’s what the mind always wants — Complete Control.
And you need to deny that.

So stop entertaining any thought, even if it’s positive, only for that session.

Call that session Meditation, Call it Happiness,
Call it Me time, Call it whatever,
Anything which suits your style!
Just remember the goal- Thoughtlessness!

If your mind is behaving like an unruly teenager, give it a task:
Try shifting its attention to the sounds of nature. 
Nature is smiling after ages… expressing happiness…
It’s easier connecting with them like never.

I’ll be honest…

It’s a turnaround process so no one could predict the revival time.
But yes, if this can take days, months, or years…
this transition might happen within moments, it’s just a mind-shift you need!

Arrange this session everyday where you deny attention to any of our thoughts.
Within a few days, you will gradually feel the reduction in its frequency.

You continue, and eventually reach a state where thoughts are not compulsive anymore.

And that’s when you start feeling consciousness in your experience.

When you are conscious, you become the creator of your experience!This is where you possess an effortless power.
The power to choose your response to people and situations waiting to meet you in the outside world.

Rest assured, consciousness chooses positive thoughts, positive emotions… everytime!
And you take your horse to the old town road… to the happy ways!

Not only about this lockdown, maybe it’s your same old mind’s narrative.
If that’s true, trust me… this lockdown is your opportunity to consciously realize a lot about your inside. 
Come on! Don’t shy away from facing yourself in the mirror of self-awareness… Good luck!

Best Self-Improvement Books in 2020

Have you been hunting for ways to transform into a happier self?It is time to call shots and make some big changes in life. 

Well, little did you know but creating a happy bubble around you is easy-peasy. The secret lies in unleashing the potential in you so that you become your best version.

Kiss goodbye to anxiety because happiness is not hard-found. Being happy is easier than you think. 

So, are you great at chalking out plans and strategies but not quite efficient in implementing them? No problem! Digging into the best of self-improvement books can help you rule out every little hurdle, standing in the way of you and a good life. Believe it or not but self-help books work like magic.

Taking cues from the insights shared by the greatest minds in the world, reading lines that are inspiring and healing and getting a hang of simple, developmental exercises, the perks of engaging in self-improvement books are way more than you can imagine. 

Wondering where to start? Don’t worry because here’s a curated list of 10 best self-improvement books of 2020

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

If you’ve been dreaming of taking pleasure in a fairytale life, Big Magic is a must-read. The author has splendidly jotted down stories, spilling beans about her experiences with magic and creativity. Read more to find out what makes her life so much happy and fulfilling.

Time Management Secrets by Martin Manser

Do you struggle to execute a job perfectly when your plate is too full? Well, Time Management Secrets is a winning aid for you. Explore the fundamentals of time management and give your career the much-needed wings. Read about the ways of strategizing and recognizing your priorities. The book includes priceless words of wisdom from experts in business circles. Learn the ropes of necessary work ethics, analyze the importance of communication and every other knick-knack, important to hit the easy-street. 

Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis

Is your life topsy-turvy? Well, Rachel Hollis is here to tell you that it is okay to have a messy life. However, to make it a joyful space and make life a smooth-sailing, one must get over the bait of procrastinating and lying to oneself. It is a big hurdle that does a lot of damage. Girl Wash Your Face is a book that enlightens you about the 20 odd lies, people love telling themselves to procrastinate and hold back. 

Year of Yes by Shonda Rimes

Shonda Rimes is not an unknown name if you loved to binge-watch shows like ‘How To Get Away With Murder’ and ‘Grey’s Anatomy.’ The book is not a fancy tenement of tricks and tips for a better life. Instead, Rimes highlights the changes she witnessed after she said ‘YES’ for a year. It is a chronicle of episodes that only got better when she started nodding ‘YES’ for everything in life. Her accomplishments and success stories that might encourage her to take the leap and work for what you’ve been scared but yearning to achieve.

The Power Of Self Discipline by Brian Tracy

Making pies in the skies is easy. Working hard to achieve those goals is a hard nut to crack. Have you been procrastinating long enough and making excuses to put in the required effort? Well, The Power Of Self-Discipline teaches you how to stop. The book is replete with activities and exercises that are guaranteed to make you much more productive, hard-working and self-disciplined. Learn how excuses are holding you back from achieving your goals. 

Think And Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill

Unlimited fortune and the luxury to feast like a king sounds too good to be true, right? Well, Think And Grow Rich is a must-have book if you want to be in the list of rich and wealthy. Wondering what the book speaks about? From magic get-rich formulas, laws of success and worthy words of advice from business eggheads, the book is a one-of-a-kind masterpiece. 

Real Help- An Honest Guide To Self Improvement|

Are you too reluctant to strive hard and aim for the gold? Has reading countless self-help books not encouraged you enough? Agreed, breaking through the shackles of laziness can be truly difficult. However, striking success ways is the only way forward. Maybe, what’s missing is some tough-love and not wise words of advice and influence stories. So, get your hands on this book and witness some miraculous changes in life. 

The Life-Changing Magic Of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

Little did you know but a house and the ambiance you are working in has much to contribute to your thought-process and life. Decluttering and getting rid of unnecessary things is essential. The author, Marie Kondo has highlighted the importance of organizing things in life and bidding farewell to the not-so-required items. The perks? Not only do I have the privilege of breathing in free space but, finally, getting a grasp of things in life. Read it to know more. 

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