How to Revive From State Where Feelings Turned Negative?

Do you only feel negative during this lockdown?

With pain and helplessness all around,

With your self-identity forced to switch roles,

With a jolted normal for unpredictably long,

The thought pop ups cannot be exciting.

Infact most of them are negative…

Relax… that’s human! And it’s not only your story.

This is the first time we fall on the same page. 

But maybe… this lockdown… most of us went all too far.

Let’s Address the Problem

Fear… Dilemmas… Uncertainties… Anxiety… You are thinking too much about the future. 

Overflowing thoughts drive you everywhere you don’t want to reach.

Now that lays the foundation of a quandary.

Because when this unconsciously flow of thoughts continue,
it leads to a mental diarrhea, which soon attacks your positive emotions. 

Ahh… now that hurts!

With thoughts already conflicting, this lockdown came up with another challenge…
Managing emotions… a bigger task than managing mind.

This creates differences between your thoughts and emotions… and your crude feelings turn negative!

Once your feelings turn negative, no matter how hard you try, you cannot feel happy. 

And that’s what is happening to most of us during this quarantine, sitting at homes… having nothing to do. 

Bodies are locked down, but minds still wandering.

Painful state this… densely negative! 
The good news:
We can get out of here.

Let’s talk about the revival now!

How to Revive From State Where Feelings Turned Negative?

Arrange a session You with Yourself where you are disconnected from the outside world. 

No people, no cell phones, no distraction whatsoever…
Start with a minimum of 30 min session whenever you get Time.

Time… not a difficult thing to find during this lockdown… isn’t it?

So what do you do in that session?

Do nothing different! Quitely get back to basics…
Remind yourself that everything started with your mind… overflowing with negative thoughts… for an extended period.

And that’s what touched the depth of feelings.

So to revive your positive feelings, you need to get back to your thoughts.

Go for it! Just sit comfortably, preferably with closed eyes, and observe your thoughts coming and leaving. Don’t pay attention to any. Allow them to pass by.

Stop participating…. stop involving with any thought… even the ones you call positive.

You might be wondering:
No attention to negative thoughts… sounds logical!
But why should I stop paying attention to positive thoughts?

Because that’s a ploy.

That’s deliberate from the mind to convince you to interact with thoughts.
So that you hook to it… and finally get carried away by the flow of it.

It’s a mind’s trap to lure you to a diversion. So that you get caught overthinking, and it (mind) remains your dictator!

Thats’s what the mind always wants — Complete Control.
And you need to deny that.

So stop entertaining any thought, even if it’s positive, only for that session.

Call that session Meditation, Call it Happiness,
Call it Me time, Call it whatever,
Anything which suits your style!
Just remember the goal- Thoughtlessness!

If your mind is behaving like an unruly teenager, give it a task:
Try shifting its attention to the sounds of nature. 
Nature is smiling after ages… expressing happiness…
It’s easier connecting with them like never.

I’ll be honest…

It’s a turnaround process so no one could predict the revival time.
But yes, if this can take days, months, or years…
this transition might happen within moments, it’s just a mind-shift you need!

Arrange this session everyday where you deny attention to any of our thoughts.
Within a few days, you will gradually feel the reduction in its frequency.

You continue, and eventually reach a state where thoughts are not compulsive anymore.

And that’s when you start feeling consciousness in your experience.

When you are conscious, you become the creator of your experience!This is where you possess an effortless power.
The power to choose your response to people and situations waiting to meet you in the outside world.

Rest assured, consciousness chooses positive thoughts, positive emotions… everytime!
And you take your horse to the old town road… to the happy ways!

Not only about this lockdown, maybe it’s your same old mind’s narrative.
If that’s true, trust me… this lockdown is your opportunity to consciously realize a lot about your inside. 
Come on! Don’t shy away from facing yourself in the mirror of self-awareness… Good luck!

Best Self-Improvement Books in 2020

Have you been hunting for ways to transform into a happier self?It is time to call shots and make some big changes in life. 

Well, little did you know but creating a happy bubble around you is easy-peasy. The secret lies in unleashing the potential in you so that you become your best version.

Kiss goodbye to anxiety because happiness is not hard-found. Being happy is easier than you think. 

So, are you great at chalking out plans and strategies but not quite efficient in implementing them? No problem! Digging into the best of self-improvement books can help you rule out every little hurdle, standing in the way of you and a good life. Believe it or not but self-help books work like magic.

Taking cues from the insights shared by the greatest minds in the world, reading lines that are inspiring and healing and getting a hang of simple, developmental exercises, the perks of engaging in self-improvement books are way more than you can imagine. 

Wondering where to start? Don’t worry because here’s a curated list of 10 best self-improvement books of 2020

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

If you’ve been dreaming of taking pleasure in a fairytale life, Big Magic is a must-read. The author has splendidly jotted down stories, spilling beans about her experiences with magic and creativity. Read more to find out what makes her life so much happy and fulfilling.

Time Management Secrets by Martin Manser

Do you struggle to execute a job perfectly when your plate is too full? Well, Time Management Secrets is a winning aid for you. Explore the fundamentals of time management and give your career the much-needed wings. Read about the ways of strategizing and recognizing your priorities. The book includes priceless words of wisdom from experts in business circles. Learn the ropes of necessary work ethics, analyze the importance of communication and every other knick-knack, important to hit the easy-street. 

Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis

Is your life topsy-turvy? Well, Rachel Hollis is here to tell you that it is okay to have a messy life. However, to make it a joyful space and make life a smooth-sailing, one must get over the bait of procrastinating and lying to oneself. It is a big hurdle that does a lot of damage. Girl Wash Your Face is a book that enlightens you about the 20 odd lies, people love telling themselves to procrastinate and hold back. 

Year of Yes by Shonda Rimes

Shonda Rimes is not an unknown name if you loved to binge-watch shows like ‘How To Get Away With Murder’ and ‘Grey’s Anatomy.’ The book is not a fancy tenement of tricks and tips for a better life. Instead, Rimes highlights the changes she witnessed after she said ‘YES’ for a year. It is a chronicle of episodes that only got better when she started nodding ‘YES’ for everything in life. Her accomplishments and success stories that might encourage her to take the leap and work for what you’ve been scared but yearning to achieve.

The Power Of Self Discipline by Brian Tracy

Making pies in the skies is easy. Working hard to achieve those goals is a hard nut to crack. Have you been procrastinating long enough and making excuses to put in the required effort? Well, The Power Of Self-Discipline teaches you how to stop. The book is replete with activities and exercises that are guaranteed to make you much more productive, hard-working and self-disciplined. Learn how excuses are holding you back from achieving your goals. 

Think And Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill

Unlimited fortune and the luxury to feast like a king sounds too good to be true, right? Well, Think And Grow Rich is a must-have book if you want to be in the list of rich and wealthy. Wondering what the book speaks about? From magic get-rich formulas, laws of success and worthy words of advice from business eggheads, the book is a one-of-a-kind masterpiece. 

Real Help- An Honest Guide To Self Improvement|

Are you too reluctant to strive hard and aim for the gold? Has reading countless self-help books not encouraged you enough? Agreed, breaking through the shackles of laziness can be truly difficult. However, striking success ways is the only way forward. Maybe, what’s missing is some tough-love and not wise words of advice and influence stories. So, get your hands on this book and witness some miraculous changes in life. 

The Life-Changing Magic Of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

Little did you know but a house and the ambiance you are working in has much to contribute to your thought-process and life. Decluttering and getting rid of unnecessary things is essential. The author, Marie Kondo has highlighted the importance of organizing things in life and bidding farewell to the not-so-required items. The perks? Not only do I have the privilege of breathing in free space but, finally, getting a grasp of things in life. Read it to know more. 

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Tips to Be Successful in Life

Success is not a milestone but a journey.

First of all, you have to set a goal according to your passion. Rest assured, when one enjoys work, then the probability of success increases dramatically. So, it is essential for you to explore your inside and find out your areas of core competence. Subsequently, pursue your passion by setting a goal and plan a course of action.

No two individuals are the same. Every person is different in character, traits, thinking, background and many more aspects. Therefore, there is no particular mantra for success. Every person has to define their path to success. However, there are some pieces of advice provided by great personalities that can help you in realizing your dreams.

Positive thinking and positive attitude are the two ends of the boat that sails you through the river full of hurdles. They not only helps you in achieving your goal but makes you a better person over and above all.

Also, it is vital never to let your professional goals ruin your personal life. Balance is must between both of them. The joy of success doubles sharing with loved ones.

Don’t let the fear of failure holds you back.  Don’t hold yourself back when you have an idea that is new to others. Always back yourself in taking calculated risks. Self-motivation is equally important to keep moving forward. Never forget to treat your spirit when you achieve something, no matter how small. Love your life, enjoy your actions and be kind to yourself.

Don’t lie on the ground when you fall, get up; it’s not about the first place always, crawl to cross the finish line.

HOW TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL?

Cricket is life…Life is Cricket

Cricket is life…Life is cricket : If you are living in a country called India, I am sure you could relate to any of the two emotional phrases in the title. It is just that you define one of the phrases. This is where the article becomes a must-read for you.

FORGET FEAR, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.” ― MAHENDRA SINGH DHONI IT?

Say… you are the one for whom “Cricket is life”…it means you are the one who plays cricket, who knows cricket, who is passionate about it.

Now let’s say “Life is cricket” for you…it means you may not be the one who plays cricket or who knows much about cricket. But whenever India plays a match, you are always there in front of the T.V cheering and shouting… ‘India…India’.

Be on either side, we, the Indians are in love with the game of cricket. To segregate it further, you gotta be kidding me if you are a Ranchiite and you are not an MSDian.

Cricket is a religion for some and for some it’s just a game…but irrespective of how you see it, let us expand our mental horizons and relate to India’s favorite sport in our real lives. 

Many of us perceive it as a glamorous sport and feel jealous of a cricketer’s lifestyle, fit bodies, name, fame, and money. But how many of us know how have our heroes reached the international stage? How many of us know how disciplined they are in terms of their regime, diet, and routine to maintain that level?

How many of us are aware of their failures behind their success? And when they have reached here, how many of us know what they go through in and off the field?

We only see them playing but you know, there is a lot we need to see beyond the conventional batting, bowling and fielding aspects. My dear friend, the game of cricket is not less than a life lesson.

Reference : Cricket is life

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7 Ways to Beat Anxiety

How Anxiety has Crept into the Lives of Common Folk?

In this fast-paced world, where everyone and everything seems to be in a rush people suffering from emotional trauma are a usual sight.

People, in a haste to grab every opportunity, all the happiness they aspire, makes them bear tremendous amounts of pressure and stress, which leads to a common disease- Anxiety. Relationships of the present era are also the main culprits of anxiety issues in people. 

What is Anxiety?

When a person is restless, lashes out at everything, and sometimes goes into utmost silence similar to depression, the person is said to be suffering from an Anxiety disorder.

Prolonged anxiety can lead to abnormality in mental health, depression, instant aggression, and abnormal mood swings. Hence it is very crucial to battle anxiety in its initial stages.

How to battle anxiety?

• Have emotional and mental support: Be close to people who understand and trust you. Discuss all your problems and fears with them. You might find it difficult at first but eventually, with the time you will feel more relaxed, less impatient and light-hearted.

• Talk to people with similar issues-  When we talk to a person who is also suffering from anxiety, our brain starts to feel accompanied. We are able to relate to his/her problems and can share our ways of getting rid of anxiety.

• Spend some time in the open Nature: Introduce yourself to morning walk sessions in the fresh air, away from noise and pollution. Spending some with yourself, evaluating your flaws and strength. The fresh air of the dawn uplifts your mood and relieves you of all the burdens of yesterday, refreshing you and recharging your potential.

• Eat what you love: Have a cheat day from your daily routine meal, and savor the food you relish the most. It is proved that the favorite food can help uplift the mood of a person suffering from anxiety.

• Devote time for your hobbies: Devote time to your hobbies every day. These hobbies make you cherish and forget your anxiety. Do whatever you like to do the most, as it will reap innumerable moments of happiness for you.

• Identify the cause of anxiety: Identify the root cause of anxiety in yourself and whatever that task may be, complete it asap. It will reduce the burden upon your mind and heart, thus lowering your anxiety.

• Don't overthink: Overthinking is the main culprit of the cause of anxiety amongst youth and people. Overthinking can only lead to piling up of stress and leading to depression.

Conclusion:

Whatever may be the reason for your anxiety, you have to comprehend the fact that anxiety is just a phase and it will pass eventually. You are the person who has to come strongly from this phase and handle your relationships, work and others simultaneously and make them successful.

Why this difference between us?

This is a heartfelt letter from a person who lost her friend, a companion, her soulmate she found in a single person. But now, he is no longer with her. Yes, he is alive but he has parted ways... But her love still prevails!!! No, she does not want him back but there are some unsaid feelings she wishes to express to him, and to everyone!!!

And here she begins…

YOU OPTED TO GROW UP BUT I OPTED TO REMAIN A CHILD…

I PREFERRED TO STAY THE SAME BUT YOU LOVED THE CHANGE.

You know why?

Because the change was for your good, not mine. I can understand that you were ambitious enough to lash onto every opportunity but how could you when the foundation of it was my failure?

You did not realize that your success ladder was not wide enough that we climbed together. But you never looked back to check whether I was behind.

You know… I was all ears in your struggling times. I made you run when you could not stand. I gave you a purpose to fight when you were on the brink of losing. I literally gave you life when you were on the verge of a suicide.

Now how could you glow your candle without realizing that it was my wax which is burning? How could you move on leaving me behind? How could you take a stride when either of your 

shoes was not mine? How did you clap when either of your hands was not mine?

I know you are not good at expressinglove but then how were you so good at expressing the bitterness? You doubted my reciprocation emphasizing that I changed. You said I don’t love you anymore… You were not completely wrong because you didn’t deserve it anymore.

Yes, both of us wanted a bigger house, but it is you who forgot that…

THE BIGGER THE HOUSE,

THE LONGER THE DISTANCE BETWEEN THE ROOMS.

You forgot that the foundation of a healthy relationship is respect, and not always love!!! You cursed my anger and frustration but never realized it was my pain shouting at you. 

You said you don’t see a smile; I say you didn’t see my tears…

You called me possessive and insecure but I say it was love. You spoke to get heard but about my words…they sought attention, but your ears called them trespassers.

I know you found my fault and I found yours… And maybe neither of us was wrong and the situation was guilty. But you know what, you were never ready to be tested in those situations. 

No, you were not a liar either but the problem was you were brutally honest. I took pride in calling you ‘my man’ but you turned out to be more of a man with fewer emotions.

I am sure you never cheated on me with other women but does that make you loyal? Sorry I deny because you stopped looking at me either. I’m sure you never slept with other women but why did you stop sleeping with me?

It was our mutual decision that I conceive. The decision which once looked beautiful seems ugly now. You know why?

Because I am the one who has to live with that decision, not you. Yes, I am still facing the wrath to conceive that decision. Abortion was your solution, but it was ‘your solution to your insecurities.’ If you ask me which you never did, it was a heinous crime.

Society… we never cared about, but I never realized that my family cared. Even now, I would not have cared, but I lost my family in the process of finding you. 

Neither I have a family now, nor I have you. Yes my love, your true color made me colorless.

I know you can get many marriage proposals today because of your fatal charm. And I’m sure you will lash onto the opportunity like you always do. But I want to tell you I need none; not because I will not get it but to differentiate between you and me.

I am struggling today… I am literally battling!!! Don’t deny even you may be battling… But there is a major difference in our battle…

I am battling alone against everyone. But you are battling with your huge army against no one.

Having said that, I will fight until my last breath to win my battle, not for superiority but to make you realize the absence of equality.

Not sure but I think I wasted a lot more time on you. But I took a while to walk off because of a genuine problem. You know what the problem was?

THE PROBLEM WAS I WAS TOO BUSY LISTENING TO MY HEART THAT I DID NOT HEAR THE CRIES OF MY SOUL.

And darling, I don’t doubt your reciprocation because I’m sure it was not love. But if you ever miss me, make sure the guilt trip is long enough… Because walking away was not my choice, you just let me go!!!

Wishing you morality and loyalty…

Never yours,

Always your well-wisher

Why would a person pay for a life coach?

Why would a person pay for a life coach?

Today’s generation is troubled in their respective lives due to lack of time. They are getting demotivated and stressed very easily. Due to this, people are becoming mentally and emotionally ill. To overcome these problems, life coaches are the best people to help the current generation.

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How do they do it?

In earlier times, our grandparents and parents were our life coaches. They were always there for us to heed all our agonies and problems. But nowadays, people don’t have time to attend to their problems. Life coaches are today’s pseudo-guardians.  They are the mentors that help people to face and overcome their problems in various phases of life, whether the problem is personal or professional.

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Why should you opt for a paid life coach?

• Life coaches are the mentors that help you save time as they offer you advice that is successful in case of the majority of people facing the same problem. Just investing a bit of money can offer a viable solution. 
• They are the coaches that guide you in any problem you are dealing with whether be it relationships, or business. They even offer advice about achieving calmness or peace of mind. They not only offer advice for the problems but also guide the mentee about how to avoid the same problems in the future.
• In the case of business life coaches, they guide you in achieving the goals as well as making subsequent improvements.
• They may help you to decide what demands your utmost attention. They help you to clear your thoughts and make the right decisions. They are the mentors who give you the confidence to pursue your dreams and provide a methodology to convert them into reality. 
• They even provide you advice on time management so that you can give the right amount of attention to everyone and everything. Even if there is no one by your side to heed to all your thoughts, they are there for you in all your good and bad times. They will always contribute towards your success.
• They will help you build up your confidence in every domain and help you excel in life. They extract all your stress and worries so that you give your best every time, on whichever platform you perform. If you cling onto a good life coach they will make you the best version of yourself. 

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Things to look out for while choosing a life coach:

As there are no certifications for a life coach, you may eventually end up opting for an incompetent one.

Make sure that you are able to connect with him as this will help you to express yourself freely.

Look out for the fees, that they are charging as sometimes they are very expensive.

Don’t fall out for a fancy looking life coach profile as they can be fake or not as you expected. 

For a person who is suffering, life coaches are a friend in disguise.

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